Tuesday, November 20, 2012

the kindness of others

I have so much to talk about, but what is most pressing?

The Golden.

He's not doing so well.  We're pretty sure he's not going to make it to the Dominican Republic.

In less than a week, a lump bigger than a fist has appeared on his leg.  At the same time, he started to refuse food and water.

He just lies around looking sad out of his one eye.

We can never really know when a pet is in pain.  They don't show it to us like we do.

I mean really!  We ridiculous humans, make a big fuss about our pain, whining all over the place and begging for attention.

Dogs and cats just sleep more, and maybe get a little cranky.

When we were outside making a big upset scene about it all, with a neighbour who has a sweet li'l bull dog, she was very sympathetic.

Of course!

We all know what it's like to lose a Fuzzy Family member.

However, never in a million years did we expect what was going to happen next.

I was all nestled in bed, trying to trick my brain into not panicking about there only being 60 days left, when I heard both the dogs freak out at a high pitched 'yelp' and a low pitched 'woof'.

I'm sure you can figure out who's was who's.

Then I saw Papi quickly, and with much exhausted instability, run to the door.

Naturally, I thought the worst.

Home invasion!!!!!!  Holy shit!!!!!!

So, in all my glory of earplugs and a night eye mask on, I ran out to see what the hell was going on.


was what was going on.

Our sweet as can be neighbours decided to bring us a token of love.

We've only spoken to them a few times when they've been out with their dog.

Usually, it's them trying to get away from me, because I just want to see their dog and all they want to do is get the poo out of him.  I tend to delay their process.

Yet, there they were at our door, with gifts of love.

They understand.

They gave us a card that read:
To Our Neighbours
We are sorry you are going through this difficult time, but the memories of your cherished four legged loved one will last a life time.  If you need anything, let us know.
From #13: TJ, Shane & Ruca
They gave Ruca's signature a puppy paw, just to make sure we knew who was who in this family stew.

The kindness of others is truly what makes this world a better place.

A simple card, candle and stuffy made our night that much better.

That small token will transform into big support today, as we bring that old fart into the vet to make our decision.

We've pretty much surmised that he's in pain.

We've pretty much accepted that he's not really living his quality of life.

We've pretty much seen the sadness in that one eye that keeps telling us, "I'm ready."

The best part about having a Fuzzy Family is all the love and laughter we get from their presence.

This right here, is the worst.

i have abundant courage


  1. I'm so sorry. It's always hard to lose a family member, even when you know it's best for them.

    Such a lovely gesture from your neighbours!

    Much love.

    1. it really came at the right time. it's empty in our home now. the pain is great :'(

  2. Poor fuzzy, I want to say I hope it does'nt hurt to much, but I know it will, so I'll say I hope the memories of your fuzzy lessen the pain of losing him xxx

    1. it does hurt kiki. i'm empty from the loss ... i wasn't ready.

  3. I'm so sorry Andrea. It's so hard to make that decision,we've had to do it twice and it is never easy. It's hard to do something that brings even a grown man to tears...it's even harder when you have to leave the vets empty handed. You have many happy/funny memories I'm sure. Take care

  4. There are no words to express how sad I am for you. Fuzzy family members make life a wonderful experience. Please know I am thinking about you and Papi... May you always enjoy the happy memories you shared together.

    1. thank you twister ... through our years together, i've learned you are a kindred spirit. and you know. you know.

  5. I cried as I read this post. Even when you know it's the right thing to do, making the decision to say goodbye to your much-loved family member is never easy. There will be a Golden-shaped hole in your world for quite a while...but there will also be lovely memories and more kindness from others, and even though they won't fill up the hole completely, they'll help. Much love to you and Papi.

    1. it's so hard today ... tomorrow will be better. xoxo


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